Decluttering Your Communication
Organization and Action Steps to Decluttering Your Communication
Communicating well with your adult children brings joy to your life. However, there is a transition from communicating with them while they were young to when they become adults. Communication changes when our children become adults. We have to understand that it’s going to look very different from the way we related to them. The way we talk to our kids is not the same as when they lived under our roof. Look to The Uncluttered Life’s Declutter Deck® for tips and tricks about home organization.
Organization
Many times, you will want to share your experiences with your adult children. You may hope that they learn from your mistakes, but that’s not how they learn. They have to make mistakes for themselves.
Things can’t always remain the same as the family changes. Expectations will need to change in order to have a more peace-filled relationship with your adult children.
Consequences of cluttered communication may be conflict, adult children shutting down, resentment, or estrangement.
Communicating with adult kids is all about a renewed tenderness and compassion.
Action Steps
Communicate clearly. Get to the point and be direct.
Instead of offering a solution or rescuing your adult child or children, validate their feelings.
Stop talking too much. In this season of your life, it’s about listening. Repeat back what is said to you. Often moms can’t do that because they were not actually listening but thinking of what they were going to say next.
Be respectful of them and their adult relationships. When children become adults, they are now on an equal plane and should be offered equal respect.
Lean into your relationships.